Just another crush?
My friends think that I'm more of an emotional being than a rational being. They say I crush a lot of girls and that it's not a good thing. Which I totally agree to by the way. And it's been an issue of dismay as to why a male - the male should be so overly dramatic. They say I crush too much and I'm hurt too easily and too much. Because I put in so much emotions in these things, that makes me an effeminate man. But why is it so easy to crush on people? I've always advanced the narrative of me having a big heart. Maybe it's easier for me to love people than for me to hate them. But is a crush on someone just infatuation or does it eventually lead to love?
A crush is a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable. Going by this definition, we’ve all been using the term wrongly. But how do you know if the person is attainable or not? We’ve mostly used the word "crush" to refer to some sort of superficial affection one may have for someone. So if we’re to judge by this definition, and by many others, we Africans, mostly misuse and misinterpret words.
Most of us have been in situations in which we’ve crushed on a teacher or an elder sister’s friend or an older female student. We’ve been in situations where we even crushed on the religious. Those people were unattainable and that makes sense. But in a Cameroonianized sense, a crush is a feeling of attraction towards someone which is simply at it’s primary stage. Some people liken it to infatuation because it eventually fades. My friends and most people believe that all you need to do is not to pay attention to it and watch it disappear. But does it mean that if nurtured it can turn to love?
According to Google Online Dictionary, love can be defined amongst other definitions, as a strong feeling of affection and sexual attraction for someone. So can a crush lead to love or it just ends as another crush? To be able to answer this, we need to clarify the doubts and draw the line. Are we talking about crush as in infatuation or crush as in surface admiration? Because "I have a crush on you" sends out a lot of emotions or a mixed message and signal. I’m interested in you but I’m not sure for how long it will last. And I might be interested in you and because I don’t know how long it will last, I prefer to say nothing. So when we meet new people and we’re feeling too attached to them and it’s like we must be moving towards something serious and tangible, we say to ourselves: "It is just another crush"
