Sorry only when you get caught? Not Sorry at all!
One day when my mother was beating me for yet another wrongdoing, I remember telling her: "Mommy I'm sorry I won't do it again" and she retorted: "You're only sorry because I caught you. Would you have been sorry if I didn't catch you red handed?" It didn't mean anything back then because as children, we'd lie ourselves out of punishment. We'd feign repentance just to avoid getting flogged or castigated. As a kid, I wasn't the type to say sorry but a good cane and the fear of lashes I'd get would make me say sorry even if I wasn't sorry at all.
Why am I talking about this today? Well. I thought that since nobody wants to address it, I might as well address the issue. Because as fake had become the new real, the rest of us struggling to remain authentic are suffering from the foolishness of the masses. My humble twopence on this issue might not be very important but it remains mine.
We've been forced to think that some phrases and expressions are always going to fix everything. Amongst these we have: "I'm sorry", " I love you" and "I miss you" Despite it being true that pragmatically, they do help ease things and calm down tense situations, they don't solve the problem per se. I remember the numerous times when people told me that I should say I'm sorry when I wasn't and that I didn't even mean it. I've been always very careful with the way I use certain phrases and expressions because I won't want to give a false impression.
The bone of contention here is why people say sorry when they don't mean it. Or how they they act like they're repentant of their wrongdoing only when they get caught. This is a phenomenon I've noticed and it's annoying. It is very common amongst cheats and thieves. If you've ever participated in a crowd mob justice (even as a spectator) you must've noticed how the thief looks sorrier than the persons he's ripped off. Same goes with people who are caught cheating on their partners. You discover how they suddenly feel, act and look repentant. Sad isn't it?
The morals of today's society require that you should do whatever you like, that might be bad by the way, and be able to walk away feeling good, unless you are caught. Because you can be really sorry only when you are caught. Because you don't feel remorse at all. Because we've sold out souls to the devil and we move around with no conscience. And like my teacher would say: "A man without principles is like a moving car without brakes." And yes, we're cars moving straight towards abyss. When you don't feel the urge to correct your wrongdoings or apologize for them beforehand, don't come apologizing and shedding crocodile tears when you get caught because according to me, if you're sorry only when you get caught, you're not sorry at all.
