Why it’s not such a bad idea to live with your mother.

In a discussion with my best friend some months back, I told him that the day his mother will send him packing, then that day, he should know that he had lost it all. As young adults, it hasn't been easy for us as we've failed more times than we've succeeded. We've seen our peers succeed so many times that it almost slumbered us into depressions. The pressure as we see our peers maintain these flashy lifestyles and become independent - as they moved out of their parents' houses. The frustration of being a young adult at a century's quarter and still living with one's parents is something that if not handled well can lead to depression. This, especially if your parents are not comprehensive enough.

So what are the benefits of living with your mother?

Be keen to how I didn't say parents but mother. It's always been a culture that the children spend all their time or most of it with their mothers. So they become close and share an intricate bond with them. So it's strange for a mother to tell her child, especially the male child, to leave her house. A mother's love for her kids is simply inexplicable and irreplaceable.

While trying to make a name for yourself, or trying to earn a living, it is decent to accept help from everybody who will genuinely want to help. And in most cases, it's your mother. When your friends and acquaintances have it all figured out, or seem to... When it seems like you're the only unsuccessful person... When your mates and even your family make you feel so uncomfortable... There's this pressure on you. You feel like the only thing you can do is to move out and find something of your own.

This might look like a good idea but it really isn't if you don't have a sustainable means of survival. There's no shame in staying with your parents when you are still trying to figure out your life and make something out of it.

Because as long as you're still with your mother, you have the food, the shelter, and the support of your mother. Don't let peer pressure push you to your early death.

But there's one thing too. Living with your mother is one comfort zone you'll need to get out of one day. So don't feel too comfortable and be ready to leave when you're ready. But don't hurry. Live with your parents while working out a sustainable life plan for yourself.

Shalom.